Bounceback Parenting – formerly Creative with Kids
What I didn’t know at the beginning of this journey is that parenting would be the ultimate training in resilience. ~Alissa
When I first had kids I was totally unprepared for the huge emotional upheaval I would be thrown into. I found myself struggling to learn how to deal with anger and fears I’d never experienced (at least not in this level), and learning how to take care of myself while caring for small people, all while frequently being utterly exhausted. Oh, and I wanted to be a connected, loving mom too.
Hi, I’m Alissa Marquess, a mom to three and the Founder of Bounceback Parenting
Why Bounceback Parenting?
What I didn’t know at the beginning of this journey is that parenting would be the ultimate training in resilience. I had to learn to bounce back over and over again when I would stumble, and I’ve stumbled a lot.
Sometimes bouncing back has been extremely humbling, I’ve had to reexamine my assumptions and change my perspective. Sometimes it’s been invigorating when I can bounce back with more knowledge, a new parenting tool or a deeper commitment to building the connected relationships I treasure. Either way I’m always learning and to me, being a Bounce Back Parent means that I strive to see the challenges in parenting as our best chances to grow.
This is what I’ll keep on sharing with you – my experiences, growth and the tools I gather as I continue to learn and build connected resilient relationships in my family.
Here’s my story. Or some of it at least – the parts of it that start here, writing to you as a mom to three young children (my kids were newborn, 3 and 5 when I really started writing here in 2010.)
I started writing, perhaps, as a survival method originally. Little did I know how lonely I would be once I was home with kids, and sending words out into the world gave me a bit of connection and contact with others. It was a shout into the darkness with the hope of someone bringing me a lantern. I started out here writing about creativity, kid projects and activities (hence the original Creative with Kids name), but I quickly realized that I needed a LOT more parenting tools if I wanted to actually enjoy creativity and activities with my kids.
I was struggling – yelling more than I wanted to, feeling overwhelmed and stressed most days.
I thought about the way my grandmother treasured the memories of her days as a mother to young children and I didn’t want to get to her age and regret these years. I began my journey out of survival mode when I wrote 100 Ways to be Kind to Your Child, and it helped me remember the simple things that matter most.
My writing began to be more about my parenting experiences both good and bad.
I now write about finding ways to create more resilient, connected relationships in our families.
It’s all about practice. I am a huge fan of connection not perfection. Some of the things we practice include:
- letting go of the ‘shoulds’ so we can be more present.
- creating family routines that simplify our days.
- and pausing more often so we can learn to respond instead of react.
Through writing I am able to reflect and learn. I connect with a positive community and I’m able to share my mission and values.
- Connection not perfection
- Trust simplicity
- Find your joy – follow it
- Respect yourself and others – take care of you.
- Be honest
We’re the joy seekers and the imperfect happiness makers. We’re the hand holders and the listeners. We’re the encouragers, the encouraged; and we are brave, though sometimes we feel small. We are honest storytellers, though sometimes we are afraid. Through our honesty we shine a light to those in darkness. We are the Bounce Back Parenting Community, and we believe that the challenges we face in our families are a chance for growth and learning.
How to connect with us:
Free Newsletter: regular inspiration about the simple things that make a big difference. Subscribe and get the three day mini-series that helps you remember the connected parent you know you can be.
Parenting Secret Mission Society: Our (kind of) secret society on Facebook. We’re on a mission to take ourselves less seriously while parenting like professionals. We encourage one another, try new things, work on letting go of things if they don’t work for us, and laugh at ourselves. Joins us if you long for meaningful conversation online.
Fill Your Cup Journal Prompts. Replenish your own emotional cup with these prompts which are published each weekend. Give yourself a little chance to reflect and take care of you. They are here to help you regroup, refuel and tap into your creative-self.
We have a Facebook page where you can find both my articles and the inspiring articles I find from others.
We have a Pinterest account where you can find both activities and parenting posts.
Together we’ll remind each other to notice the joy in the ordinary chaos, and find gratitude everyday. We’ll strive not to live perfectly but to live with connection, humility and the knowledge that if we stumble we can bounce back having learned something new and grown a bit more.