Today we’re welcoming my friend Erica Layne of Let Why Lead; her writing inspires me because of the way she touches on truths that sometimes slip through our fingers – like we know them, but haven’t quite articulated them. Once she lights the way it’s easier to live these truths. This post contains affiliate links to her book, How to Craft a Family Purpose Statement. Enjoy! ~Alissa
Parent with More Clarity When Your Know Your “Why”
by Erica Layne
The 1.2 million parenting articles, the 12 podcasts episodes, the 8 books on your nightstand, the 5 well-meaning strangers who have given you advice in the grocery store… Your brain has taken all of this in within the last month.
It is overloaded.
Thankfully, knowing your why helps you tune out noise.
It helps you filter through information that, while great, doesn’t speak directly to you because it isn’t your core.
Knowing Your Why
The concept of “the why” came into my life at just the right time, a time when I was desperate for it.
I was working from home while taking care of two little boys (both practically babies). My husband was clocking a significant number of hours—enough to keep him at the office until well into the middle of the night even during our son’s first week of life. We didn’t live near family, and I was doing everything I could to keep a grip on my tenuous mental health.
But still I was floundering.
That’s when I first started thinking about “the why.”
I began to feel immense relief in the idea that life isn’t about what you do but why you do it.
Since then, I’ve grown stronger in my conviction that continually coming back to the whys of my life, my deepest intentions, helps me let go of some of the pressure to do it all—and the guilt for never being able to.
It’s a freeing way to live.
In a beautiful post on Momastery, Glennon Doyle Melton wrote:
Brave people only answer to ONE voice and that is the voice that arises within. Brave people are just people who trust themselves more than they trust the crowd.”
I would add that brave families are just families who trust themselves more than they trust the crowd. They are families who own their message and allow that message to shape each member’s personal identity in a profound way.
Knowing your why as a family, articulating what it means to be an Allgood or a Freeman or a Holt, will help you finally quiet the noise and listen to the voice that arises within.
The text above is an excerpt from my ebook, How to Craft a Family Purpose Statement. I’d love for you to learn more about creating a family purpose statement that represents your family’s why and that can serve as a roadmap for years to come.
Learn more and get your copy on Amazon.
Thank you, and best wishes!
Erica Layne is a sunset chaser and a mom of three living in the San Francisco Bay area. She writes Let Why Lead, a place for purposeful women. She’s passionate about living fully and filling her family with love and belonging—and helping other women do the same. For regular reminders of the big picture, connect with her on Facebook, Pinterest, or at letwhylead.com.
I love how Erica says, “brave families are just families who trust themselves more than they trust the crowd.” Can you recall a time you had to dig deep and make a choice in your family that might not have met with crowd approval? What did you do to find the strength to make that choice?