12 Communication Habits to Build for a Thriving Relationship

​​Communication may be the cornerstone of solid relationships, but navigating conversations with your partner can sometimes feel like deciphering hieroglyphics in a hurricane. 

With a few tweaks and adjustments, you can transform your discussions from frustrating to fulfilling. Here are the communication skills and habits to practice for happy connections.

Listen Like a Champ

Active listening is the seed for growing empathy and understanding. Give your partner your full attention, get curious about what they want you to know, and offer encouraging nods. Show you're engaged by summarizing what they've said to ensure you're understanding them.

Respect, Rain or Shine

When you disagree with someone, it's important to remember to treat them with respect. Avoid using insults, put-downs, or interrupting them. Remember that you're working together to solve a problem, not fighting against each other. 

If the conversation starts to become negative, remind the other person that you're both on the same team and that you want to understand their feelings. This will help the conversation to stay positive and focused on finding a solution.

Remember You Can Feel Differently

Listen for and acknowledge your partner's feelings, even if they differ from yours. A simple “I hear you're feeling sad (or another emotion) about…” can go a long way in building trust and connection. Remember, validation doesn't mean agreement. It means understanding. You don't have to change the way they feel about something.

Ditch the Accusations, Choose “I” Statements

Ditch the finger-pointing! Shift the focus from criticizing “you” to expressing your own feelings with “I” statements. Instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” try, “I feel hurt when I try to talk and don't feel like you've heard me.”

“Time Out” Before Meltdown

Feeling the heat rising? Call a “time out” before things boil over. Excuse yourself briefly, take a few deep breaths, and return when you're both ready for a calmer conversation. You may find the issue resolves itself or just really wasn’t worth the heated discussion in the first place.

Frequently Express Appreciation

Don't let good things go unnoticed! Express gratitude for the little things your partner does. A simple “Thank you for making dinner” or “I appreciate you listening to me today” can work wonders.

Use those sticky notes for purposes beyond the grocery list. Write down some form of gratitude or positive message and post it on the bathroom mirror or somewhere your partner will see. 

Don't Expect Mind-Reading 

Communicate your needs and desires clearly and directly. Don't expect your partner to decipher unspoken thoughts magically. Even if you think it should be obvious, remember, they can't read your mind (yet!).

Make “We Time” a Priority

Schedule regular quality time together, free from distractions. Whether it's a romantic dinner, a hike in the park, or simply cuddling on the couch, dedicate time to connect and nurture your bond. This dedication to each other speaks volumes in terms of healthy communication. 

Embrace the Uncomfortable

Don't shy away from tough conversations. Addressing difficult topics openly and honestly can strengthen your relationship and build trust. 

Forgive (And Move On)

Holding onto grudges is like carrying a heavy backpack on a sunny day. Forgive your partner and yourself for past mistakes, and focus on moving forward together.

Celebrate the Wins (Big and Small)

Relationships aren't just about weathering storms; they're about celebrating sunshine too! Acknowledge and celebrate each other's successes, big or small. Sharing joy strengthens the bond.

Remember, You're a Team

Approach challenges with a collaborative spirit, and remember, there's no “I” in “team.” Communication is a two-way street, so encourage healthy habits. With practice and patience, your communication skills will blossom, nurturing the love that grows within.

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