Anything But Routine – on keeping things calm when you’re a natural chaos maker
It’s no secret that having a good routine, or a good rhythm to your day (we do this before that, then we do this) makes your day run smoother with kids. As a person who craves new things though, sometimes I shoot myself in the foot by ditching our routine just when things are going good (Ooh! New! Shiny! Let’s change! <<that’s me.) If this describes you, I have some ideas that can help.
I used to feel a lot of guilt about not sticking with things. I didn’t recognize that itch to stir the pot as a positive and I’d berate myself for causing chaos. But feeling guilty doesn’t lead to calm, and I needed a change in thinking.
Now that I’ve begun to embrace this aspect of my personality instead of thinking of it as a flaw, I can see myself as someone who is multi-passionate and thrives on change.
Accepting that change-craving part of my personality lets me work with it instead of against it.
My kids and I do need routines, but I give myself permission to keep them fresh and working in our family. I like practicing consistent flexibility – making routines that bend with our needs. All that change also makes me a veteran of starting new routines, and being skilled at starting a routine is key in growing with my kids.
This week I’m featured on the Recapture Self podcast by Beryl Ayn Young. We talk about “freshness”, learning how to switch between passions, why I get distracted doing the dishes and more. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling guilty about not finishing things, or overwhelmed by everything you’ve gotten yourself involved in you may really enjoy this episode. Give a listen!
Are you a chaos maker, changing things up to keep them fresh? Have you found ways to embrace this? I’d love to know what you do about sticking to the routines that really do make your life easier when routines aren’t your strong suite. Leave a comment and let’s chat.
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