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Learning how to handle anger whether you’re and angry parent or a parent dealing with an angry child is one of the most emotionally taxing, yet beneficial challenges we face as parents. Why beneficial? Because there is no one else like your child to motivate you to find healthy responses to anger, and the emotional work you do now will serve you the rest of your life. This intense emotion is hard to control and can be very scary. This is a loving space to learn about handling your anger or the anger of your kids.
Dealing with anger has been one of the most difficult and humbling parts of parenting for me, so as best I can, I share what I learn along the way.
If you’d like to find way to deal with anger and stop yelling at your kids, these resources are for you. You are not alone – many of us struggle to deal with anger as we never learned healthy ways to handle this strong emotion.
This is me the day I asked my then 7 year old what I look like when I’m angry. We had a little photo shoot. He was saying “Yes! Like that…ok, only meaner!”
I hope the books and links on this page help you find the tools you need to bring some more peace to your home. I will update this page as I learn more about how to deal with anger. Let me know if there is a resource you think belongs here.
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Anger is not an unhealthy emotion, but the ways we deal with anger sure can be. When you feel stuck being angry or rageful it tends to lead to guilt and shame, making you feel terrible, and more likely to snap and yell, leading to more guilt – yuck. These posts can help you break this cycle and begin the momentum to grow from your anger as you learn healthy ways to deal with it.
Below I’ve listed a handful of my favorite books.
|The back of this book has sections which list behaviors and how to respond to them. Make sure to get the updated edition in which they no longer support spanking.||Gives you the framework to understand your child’s most frustrating behaviors and learn how to help them be successful and fun to live with instead.||A starting point for any parent wanting to break the cycle of yelling/hitting/shame and switch to a positive, intentional style of parenting.||Since I’ve started using Amy’s tools my kids are fighting less and I’m feeling more empowered and much less angry. She also has a video course I highly recommend.|
To find a more complete listing including books on parenting an intense child, sibling rivalry and more go to:
The Orange Rhino – Fantastic site all about a mom’s journey to stop yelling. Lots of alternatives to yelling, help for how to deal with anger.
Stop Yelling Webinars – Free hour long webinar that you watch on your tablet or computer and you can ask questions in the text chat.
Hi, I’m Alissa, a mom to three learning alongside you as we build connected, resilient families.Read More About My Story