I used to have a very hard time seeing anything but the ways I had failed when I faced struggles as a parent. If I was dealing with siblings fighting, I figured it was because I had done everything wrong and failed to teach the kids to get along. If one of my kids struggled to focus when [...]Continue Reading
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10 Phrases to Help You Develop a Growth Mindset in Parenting
One shift in thinking has drastically improved my parenting, and that is moving from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset about being a mom. This growth mindset says - you are always learning and it's never too late to make a more positive choice. When you make a mistake it's not an indication that [...]Continue Reading
Growth Mindset in Relationships – the mindset shift that will transform your parenting
You may have heard about helping kids have a growth mindset. This idea, discovered by Psychologist Carol Dweck, is simple, yet has huge effects on people's learning, motivation and ability to succeed. In short, a growth mindset means having the belief that everyone can learn and grow starting right [...]Continue Reading
Is this what causes so many kids to be brats?
"It's crap like this that causes so many kids to be brats and monsters, we need to be tougher on kids, not softer."Ever heard something like that? I got a comment here recently that said as much. Certainly it's not the first time I've gotten comments like that and maybe this time it was just too [...]Continue Reading
Connection NOT Perfection
Years ago I was struggling as a new mom - learning to cultivate the rituals, traditions and values that would create my own family culture. I didn't have much practice sorting out what mattered to me and my little family, and what was just other people's expectations, not be something that would [...]Continue Reading
Starting Over – 5 Questions for Making Your Personal Plan
As we've been talking about using a kind voice instead of yelling here, many people have left comments like this one,"On those days where I’ve just lost my cool too many times and the guilt just overwhelms me when my head hits that pillow. I vow tomorrow I’ll be better. And then that vicious [...]Continue Reading