Resources for Learning to Use a Kind Voice – Even if You Have to Fake It
We’re learning to use a kind voice instead of yelling.
If you’d like to replace your yelling with a kind voice, look through these articles, get inspired and then, go be kind. Simple and as complex as that – one habit at a time we’re learning to find joy and treat ourselves and our children with respect. You can find all the posts on learning to use a kind voice instead of yelling here.
Building the habit of using a kind voice instead of yelling:
No More Mama Trash Talking – It’s awfully hard to be kind to those around you when you’re bashing yourself. Find 10 phrases here to use to get rid of negative self talk.
They Imitate Kindness – Read the comment that scared me and also pushed me into accepting the kind voice challenge.
You can be kind. They can be angry – 6 Ways I’ve learned to respectfully and kindly set limits.
One easy thing I’ve done to remind myself of my commitment to using a kind voice, was inspired by this article on using your computer password as a catlyst for changing a life habit. Here are a few password ideas:
64 Positive Things to Say to Kids
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I’m sick of being so strick I’m a single mom my son’s my world alhamdulillah – thank god for him but I’m so stricked really short tempered and I’m very not interested in playing with him he’s always smashing the house everything actually so playing is just me talking to a brick wall it’s lonely as hell I likes playing with kids his age so I feel insignificant in his life I feel he has artisum he don’t respond listen he hates playing with me he’s in his own world 45% of the time I ask health visitor to check what’s wrong but they take it very slow like the want our kids to have a fucked up child hood I could be being nasty to my son yelling at him constantly and all this time he’s artistic I will feel so angry the fucking health visitor are ass holes if my son needs support and they fuck him up I’ll be so extremely angry
It’s so crazy I’m so angry lately
I’m just not very happy lately at all I’m so dame moody I don’t know why ?!
I totally need this!
Silvia Tiya Hayakawa
Love the ideas, thank you! 🙂
I have days when I think, “I did pretty good today.” But there are plenty of others when I find myself crying at the end of a long day/night wishing I had yelled less and showed more patience. I’m just hoping it all balances itself out in the end. It’s so upsetting to hear my son be bossy or yell at the dog because I know he’s imitating me. I’m going to try on Alissa’s mantra – they imitate kindness. I put it on my iPhone calendar to repeat daily. Hopefully this daily reminder will help me get a grip.
I love Lisa’s idea to set a daily reminder on the iPhone! I’m totally stealing it. Also, not alone with going to bed crying. I’ve done it numerous times. On those days where I’ve just lost my cool too many times and the guilt just overwhelms me when my head hits that pillow. I vow tomorrow I’ll be better. And then that vicious cycle repeats.
I have been searching for ideas to help my mind and heart build a better bond with my children. I too have had countless nights of going to bed crying, wishing I had done a better job at being a mom that day. Thank you for this article and for others being so honest in their posts.
I don’t have any of my own answers yet, which is why I’m subbing…I want to hear what others do. I yell WAY too much, and I hate it 🙁